At SMOMS.org you’ll never be called “over-sensitive” or crazy!
Hi and Welcome to Stepmoms on a Mission®
WHEN? On March 1, 2000, eighteen of us began meeting on Wednesday nights for what turned out to be two years. On March 1, 2002, we switched to monthly meetings and opened our first website to expand my ability to support Stepmoms from around the world and create a compassionate and creative sisterhood who would share, learn and support each other. As of Sept, 2018, we introduced our new and improved website. I’m glad you found us.
WHY ANONYMOUS? The members of the group each adopt a pseudonym nickname because experience has shown it gives everyone much greater freedom to share and offer their true feelings without worry of embarrassment or fear of being discovered by a stalking bio-mom or partner. Your identity is completely confidential. At this point, I am the only one who ever sees any payment or contact information. The site admins are sworn to secrecy and are very trustworthy about keeping all email addresses completely confidential. There is a private messaging feature on the forums for members who want to connect personally and privately. Over the years, several private Facebook groups have formed as sister SMOMS begin to connect and want to share their lives more deeply and openly.
WHO? The women who are drawn to be part of Stepmoms on a Mission® are from all walks of life and several countries as well. They are amazing, giving, energetic, loving and thoughtful women who love their husbands, want to love (or at least get along with) their stepkids and are committed to doing their best in every stepfamily situation.
HOW? Our Success Focuses on these Strategies:
- Creative Problem Solving
- Effective Emotion-Processing Skills
- Conscious Self-Care
- Compassionate Self-Awareness
All conversations are conducted in the space (and with the tone) of kindness and non-judgmental support. I’m a real stickler for both of these issues so every member agrees to our Kindness Guidelines.
WHAT? The areas of Stepfamily issues that we focus on are varied and complex, however experience has taught us there are tremendous similarities in the feelings we feel and the tactics that work. These issues usually come under one of the following categories:
- Stepmom Self-Awareness & Empowerment Skills
- Processing and Eliminating Resentments
- Improving Your Relationship with Your Partner
- Connecting/Dealing with Your Stepkids
- Managing “Uncooperative” Bio-moms
Dear Stepmom, I know that YOUR life situation is complex and unique. I also know that there is a special connection that comes from working and talking with other Stepmoms who really know how you feel—many who may have already dealt with whatever you’re dealing with now and want to share their experiences with you. Getting and giving support is what being a member of the SMOMS Forums is all about.
THE GOAL? Give you the answers and support you want with the resources (time, energy, money and attention) you have to invest in this potentially transformational journey. You can work with this material in many ways to fit your situation and preferences. There’s a LOT of free information on the site, my new book has over 600 pages of guidance, you can have private consultations, join our workshops and participate in all the activities on the Member Forums. Review the Home page for links and see if anything makes sense for you.
If this sounds like the place for you, please join us as a Guest Member (it’s free, no credit cards and anonymous) or jump right in as a 3-month or Lifetime Member. Any questions? I’d be delighted to hear from you – contact me!
I know being a Stepmom can be very difficult. I’ve been a Stepmom since 1996 and we are still discovering new and improved ways to stay happy and feeling good no matter what other people do. Thankfully, being a Stepmom has a huge upside. It can be a very direct path to healing emotional wounds that arise and changing limiting beliefs you didn’t know you had so you can become wiser and happier than you imagined possible. Yes Really!
Warm Regards from one Stepmom to another, Cathryn
The Stepmom’s Serenity Prayer
“May I have the patience and humility to believe things can get better,
the willingness and courage to avoid blaming and to
look at my contribution to each situation and…
the energy and flexibility to keep trying new ways to create more love
and less stress in our lives.”