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SMOMS Poems by sister SMOMS
Would you like to share a poem? Please feel free to post it here or email to me and I will add it to the list. Always eager to provide inspiration for sister SMOMS. CBD

A Poem for my Sister SMOMS

The unsung hero of the family forest
The all guts, little glory of forever take two
Some say you should have known the story
Yet no one lives it more than you.

There is no holiday to mark your efforts
And most will never comprehend
The pain that dances with every good day
The hurt of heart you ache to mend.

You often feel the odd one out
The square-edged peg above a rounded hole
The joy, the pain, the love, the rebuff
Flirt with the edges of your soul

‘No, I am not your mother baby bird
Yet still I help to raise and soothe you,
Not because genetics demand it
But because, my dear, I choose to!’

Hip, Hip Hooray for you brave one
Who leapt into the fray
May you long be proud of all you do
All you give and say.

Hang in there lovely SMOM
And when your heart is sore
Hand it to me gently
And I’ll support it forevermore.

With very best wishes,


Bring your stories, good and bad,
Talk about success you've had.

Share the problems that you face,
Get good ideas in our "safe space."

We're all about honoring the way we feel,
The compassion we share is unique and quite real.

It feels great to know we can email or phone,
"Cause when you're a SMOM you're never alone!

Author-an annonymous SMOM

A SMOM from Australia wrote this in a moment of inspiration around Mother's Day 2007. It was so SMOM-like and right-on that she gave me her permission to make it a permanent part of the site. Thanks Debs!

“I penned this the style of the odes to Mums..”

This Stepmothers Day, lets spare a thought for all of the Stepmothers who often have a thankless task. This is for the unsung heros, the SMOMS!

This is for the women who started this journey thinking " I can make this work." For the women who had their dreams shattered and were left to pick up the pieces of family life.

The women who find themselves up during the night with a child who they didn't give birth to, because they are sick and their Dad is sleeping through. For SMOMS who sat through the vomit, the snot, the coughing, sneezing and whining.

For the SMOMS who helped make a mothers day card with a stepkid for a BM who totally didn't deserve it and won't even care. For the SMOMS who thought about it but didn't do it and for the SMOMS who didn't have to do it.

For the SMOMS who took skids to doctors and hospitals and dentists. For SMOMS who said last goodbyes to stepkids at a funeral home.

For the SMOMS who were passed over for Mothers day because they are SMOMS, not MOMS.

For the SMOMS who've comforted their husbands because their children have moved out of the state. For the SMOMS who've comforted each other because the stepkids have moved into their homes.

For the SMOMS who have screamed into the night that life ISN'T fair. For those of us who have seen pettiness within us that we didn't like. For those of us who have lost our temper, lost our cool and lost our marbles trying to make sense of complicated situations.

For the SMOMS who have spent hours sobbing because a child hurt our feelings and discovered that there really IS a feeling of wanting to tear your hair out.

For the SMOMS who've looked at the DH and wondered what happened to a wonderful love story.
For the SMOMS who've looked at the frying pan and then at DH and wondered if it would improve their love story!

For the SMOMS who can't let the pain go. For the ones who are learning to let the pain go and for the SMOMS like Cathryn who are teaching others to let the pain go.

For the SMOMS who check this site 100 times a day to see if any one has answered their desperate post, with a solution. For the SMOMS who check this site to see if they can offer a solution. For the SMOMS who care enough to share their names and lives and details to help others. For the SMOMS who want to, but can't.

For every SMOM who has looked at themselves in the mirror and wondered how they got to this place in life. For all the SMOMS who don't look in the mirror any more because the extra pounds have helped us cope with the pain. For the SMOMS who can finally look themselves in the mirror again and say "I'm getting somewhere."

For the SMOMS who look after someone else’s kids on the holidays. For the SMOMS who juggle split families and sports and schools. For the SMOMS who spend so much time running between schools and activities, they wonder whether they should live in their car.

For the SMOMS who never get the skids on important days. For the SMOMS who spend the important days fitting all the kids into a couple of hours.

For the SMOMS who've been hurt by an angry BM. For the SMOMS who have tried everything to make BM happy and still can't. For the SMOMS who are also BMs.

For the SMOMS who seem to be the only one trying to help a child who isn't your own. Or to turn the whole family around. For the SMOMS who desperately wanted Dr Phil to move into the guest room!

For the SMOMS coping with stepkids used as pawns or messengers. To any SMOM who's ever heard the phrase "Well I can do it at my Mum's house."

For the SMOMS who've sat through counselling sessions and the SMOMS who can't get their family to counselling sessions. For the SMOMS that have sat through family court, mediation and other enormous wastes of time and money. For the SMOMS who haven't.

For the SMOMS who are the only Mother a child has now and are dealing with an ungrateful child, ungrateful DH and pain at every turn. For the SMOMS who's BMs have walked back into their child’s lives and been the recipient of undeserved adulation, while you were just shoved in a corner and forgotten about.

For the SMOMS who organise every one else's birthdays and presents only to be overlooked on their special day

For the SMOMS who wanted to walk out the door but didn't. For the SMOMS who wanted to lose the step kids, but didn't. For the SMOMS that struggle with their feelings for the stepkids and are brave enough to share their pain and hurt and anger.

SMOMS are powerhouses of love and we are so busy looking after everyone else’s best interests that we forget to celebrate ourselves. SMOMS are pioneers and our stories will be invaluable for those SMOMS who don't even know they are going to be SMOMS yet.

Sister SMOMS....I stand in awe of all of you. Bright women who are fighting for their families to have a cohesive future. SMOMS who are fighting the good fight and getting jipped on the rewards of being a good SMOMS.

Happy Stepmothers Day.
Love Debs

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SMOMS Poems by sister SMOMS - by Cathryn Bond Doyle - 07-16-2013, 12:05 PM
RE: SMOMS Poems by sister SMOMS - by allmylove - 07-16-2013, 12:44 PM

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