1. I would try not to get so emotionally involved, though that’s easier said then done. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, and show that things bother me. I think BM got a rise out of knowing that she bothered me.
2. I would try to have a little more patience… because of the situation my stepkids are in with their BM, they are very needy… and though I love them with all my heart, sometimes that clinginess was very tough to deal with. The kids would act out in ways that I felt were not appropriate for a child, and DH would tell me that we need to cut them some slack because of the life they have to live (by acting out, simple things like attitudes… and not to just me, but their father as well… and not listening). I feel that I would have benefited myself if I just had a bit more patience.
3. I would try to separate myself as much as I could from BM, and not involve myself…. I am the type of person that likes to be a part of everything… I don’t want to be left out, and well sometimes, I need to realize that I don’t need to be a part of everything.