One of the most important things I learned even if you give your all and fail life does go on. After of 10 years of raising his children and almost going to jail several times due to their lies and their mothers lies things finally started to calm down. I found out he was having an affair with a woman/child that was only 5 years older then his son. He left me for her and now will not even allow the children to contact me. I guess the 2nd most important thing is now I will not even date a person that has children. I know I sound bitter but I had my life taken away after all of the labors of love I gave. I did appreciate all of the help your website gave me during that time.