1. Make sure BM is OUT of the picture completely. If she’s not lay down rules to get her out as soon as possible. A smom CANNOt happily share her SO with the BM.
2. It’s ok not to love your stepkids are your own because they are NOT your own. Don’t beat yourself up over it.
3. Your SO has to be willing to put you first above the stepkids and also back you up in all situations. If he’s not willing to do these two things you should RUN away.
Very respectfully, Karma