I’m 29 years old and have been a CP smom for 2 1/2 years to a 8 year old boy (he’s been living in my home since he was 4 however).
1. Not allowed my DH to put so much responsibility for SS on me. I let him put way too much on my plate and it lead to resentment that I’m struggling with now.
2. Stayed out of anything to do with BM. Though my DH gets busy, he has to communicate with her, I don’t. Period.
3. I would not have put my SS first in our marriage for the first few years we were together. It lead to a distance between DH and I. Our foundation started out cracked because of it and we are paying for it now.
4. I would not join our finances. It causes a lot of resentment as well. I feel like all of our money goes to SS. I’m sorry, but he’s not mine and some of my money should be able to go to something other than him.