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Remember
that night when you were at the end of your rope and you didn't
know where to turn? Let's make this THE PLACE to
come for an ever-increasing selection of self-care, creative problem
solving and communcations skills ideas.
Pretend you are going to be on Letterman, and he
asks you for the top SMOMS Tips for helping Stepmoms creating a
more joy filled life. We are not going to pressure you into naming
10 (but you can if you want). What would you say? How can you contribute
to our collection of Creative Solutions for SMOMs around the world?
Please submit your tips. Humor is great, and sarcasm can be effective.
Hostility will not be allowed. We want ALL the
tips here to inspire, support and help other SMOMS in practical,
proven and creative ways.
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| Submitted By |
About this SMOM |
| Karen |
dealing with a vengeful bio or adoptive mom |
| Frustrated |
Feedback please! |
| Onyx |
Remember... |
| Helen |
Just the GF |
| Sarah |
I took on 4 stepkids, 2 biomoms, hubby works 2nd shift and his oldest is only 5.5 years younger than me. |
| Mackenzie Hayden |
biodad just got full custody but I dont know who to handle a stepdaughter |
| Danyelle |
Ladies, i understand. the BM was crazy literally. She stalked and called my man all the time. Would just walk in the house when she dropped the girls off and ketp all her mail going to my man's house even thought they have been divorced for a couple years |
| Sarah |
My agenda is controlled by the BM. |
| Trish |
New to the group |
| Stepping Softly |
Reading the book "The Incredible Years" has been incredibly helpful. |
| Heather |
Husband saying I dont treat my step kids like our own kids....and I don't |
| Rebekah |
All i've ever wanted is for myself and the BM to be civil - but she jsut won't let this happen. Always creating a drama when things don't go her way! |
| Margie |
Things I've learned being a step mom (3 years now) |
| Rachel |
I have within the past year become a step mom once, and we have recently found out that my SO has a 5 month old son (concieved before we were together) So not only do I have to deal with an ex-wife/BM... but a BM as well. The ex wife is great but the othe |
| jmarie |
just some thing to remember...time has a way of healing all things. There are going to be things we face as smoms that are going to be hard, wether from the sk or the bm, but time has a way of working things out...just make a plan...get your husband to ba |
| smom to a teen |
Caught in a never-ending popularity contest with BM |
| christy |
I am new to the site and to being a step mom. The children are 3 and 7. the seven year old is great, but he understands the situation better. He would rather be home than at the bms. the 3 year old only knows that she sees her mom on the weekends. she doe |
| JL |
I am with u>>>>>>> Someone told me to start a love letter journal back and forth from my self and step daughter but be forward I have heard that this wks and can burn you depending on the child. |
| Heather |
Intrinsic Sensitivity |
| Young and Restless |
Im almost 20 and my boyfriend is almost 24. He has a son that just turned 1. The BM doesn't know about me yet but she makes my DFH so upset sometimes and she will call his cell phone like in the wee hours of the morning to argue and disturb our sleep. I h |
| JL |
What do step kids call you??? |
| jennifer |
SM but never a BM |
| Joyce |
No more lost clothes! |
| Kim |
My SD's dad (my husband) does not think his daughters do anything wrong. He refuses to discipline because he doesn't want them to be mad. |
| momof3 |
Getting Ready for Court |
| Wise owl |
LET BIO_MOM?BIO_DAD |
| Wife #2 |
I read someone's problem and thought I could help. |
| Carmen |
clothing/items back and forth |
| Carmen |
I RECENTLY (after three years of wanting to run over BM with car, and then backing up and running over her again) discovered a thought that keeps my mouth shut, my head less mentaly exhausted, and my heart less heavy. Decreases stress as well:
I cannot c |
| leah |
I am new at this computer stuff but I have been a stepmom for 3 years. I have 2 SDs that live with me and my husband and I also have a son of my own. The girls have a nightmare for a BM and I hope that some of you can help me with some issues. I have also |
| Jo |
Response to Shell |
| Jordan |
Response to Tonya |
| Arica |
A Newbie |
| amy |
4 agreements |
| Lynn |
Moving In!! |
| Debs |
Mothers Day/ Fathers Day |
| Beth |
Dealing with their pain |
| Dianne |
I am the adult |
| Ali |
Maturity from Ann Landers |
| Tonya |
The positive of being a SMOM |
| Deni |
Lying & Cheating |
| Kathy |
Resources for Dads fighting for custody/visitation |
| Lisa |
SKid Recipes |
| Kay D. |
Step-kids birthdays |
| Shell |
When all else fails - eliminate direct contact. |
| Nancy |
Points to Ponder |
| Stacey |
The Kids in the middle |
| Maryann |
Time for yourself |
| Tonya |
Be strong |
| Nichole |
"The Power of One Thing" |
| Valeria |
Caller ID and more.... |
| Val |
Laughter is the best medicine |
| Ali |
Back to School Tips (posted by Leah, taken from the board) |
| Cathryn |
Back to School Tips (posted by Leah from the board) |
| Kim |
Celebrating Special Occassions |
| Charlotte Adams |
Say this to yourself |
| Charity |
For step-mom's to be |
| Cathryn |
Stepkids for the Summer? Some relationship tips to help the situation! |
| Kimberly |
Get it in writing |
| Renee' |
Piece of Cake - Inspiration Tip |
| DI |
WALK A MILE |
| Nichole |
Work "ON" your life not "IN" it |
| Tina |
Communicating with your sweetie |
| alice |
children NEED love MOST when they DESERVE it the LEAST. sometimes, acting out is a way of getting attention (even negative attention is better than none at all to a child) |
| Alleah |
Working out drop off/pick ups |
| Alleah |
Working out holidays/any special day |
| Anna |
Family Unity |
| Donna |
The Value of a Padded Room :-) |
| Anna |
Tips for your sanity |
| Staci Lyn |
This will work for ANY kid |
| Laura |
Unwanted phone contact with exwife |
| Cathryn Bond Doyle |
Always looking for new ideas |
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