SMOM Tips submitted by: Heather

Husband saying I dont treat my step kids like our own kids....and I don't

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1	I've been a smom for 11 years and we have our ups and downs with biomom but I'm having a really hard time right now with my husband comparing how I'm mothering our two biological kids with how I mothered my skids. He believes their should'nt be a difference and I keep telling him there absolutely is. Example: my two year old came in our room last night and after the tenth time I let her lay with us until she fell asleep then took her to her room. When my skid was 3 she would do the same and I woul shuffle her back to her room and remind her she had her own bed, etc. He thinks I'm a lot more lax on our two new ones than with her, which in that aspect may be true, but I always take them back to their room. I am much more strict with our two though than I ever was with his, and I tell him all the time if the skids were mine I wouldve done a lot of things different than I did but did not feel I was "able" to as far as discipline, bonding, love, things moms do with their biological kids. He refuses to see the difference. I don't know what to do or how to get it through to him "its different".
2	Any help would be great.

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