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			<title><![CDATA[Don't you just hate it when....]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 21:46:53 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Ok....I have this raging headache and I have been putting off taking any ibuprofren.&nbsp;&nbsp;Just don't like to take it.&nbsp;&nbsp;But now it's to the point where I am just about in tears.&nbsp;&nbsp;So, I go to the cabinet where I keep meds and low and behold there is only 1 left.&nbsp;&nbsp;WTF!!!!!&nbsp;&nbsp;Do you think DH could have told me we were getting low.&nbsp;&nbsp;He's the only other adult in the house so I know it wasn't "I don't know".....Now I have to go to the store and I am in nooooooooooooo mood to do that.

Sorry ladies, I just had to get that off my chest.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Ok....I have this raging headache and I have been putting off taking any ibuprofren.&nbsp;&nbsp;Just don't like to take it.&nbsp;&nbsp;But now it's to the point where I am just about in tears.&nbsp;&nbsp;So, I go to the cabinet where I keep meds and low and behold there is only 1 left.&nbsp;&nbsp;WTF!!!!!&nbsp;&nbsp;Do you think DH could have told me we were getting low.&nbsp;&nbsp;He's the only other adult in the house so I know it wasn't "I don't know".....Now I have to go to the store and I am in nooooooooooooo mood to do that.

Sorry ladies, I just had to get that off my chest.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Seriously considering leaving]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 20:49:04 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[This is the hard part about being a SM and a BM.&nbsp;&nbsp;I feel tonight was the last straw.&nbsp;&nbsp;SD has tried so many times to hurt BS and BD and I feel I have to protect them.&nbsp;&nbsp;I love DH, but I am not certain I am willing to put the lives of BS age 3 and BD almost age 2 in jeopardy.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Little run down here from most recent to oldest.
Delibrately left Kaboom cleaner on the bathroom floor and door open for BD to get in there.
Purposely disobeyed and put a blanket covering the tv and electrical outlets to try and create a fire.
Pushed BS down a flight of concrete stairs because he "got in her way"
Gave BD sleeping pills.
Left her floride out and open in her room with the door open so that BD and BS could get in there and ingest them.
Put a blanket over BD's head to try and suffocate her.
Slamed BS's hand in the sliding glass door.
Poored bubbles over BS's head.
Laid over BS so he couldn't breathe.
Put a pillow over BD's head to stop her from "screaming"
Pushed BD off a bed.
Pushed BS off a chair.
Pushed BD and BS down the basement stairs
Purposely gave BS all his viatmins to eat.
etc.etc. etc.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[This is the hard part about being a SM and a BM.&nbsp;&nbsp;I feel tonight was the last straw.&nbsp;&nbsp;SD has tried so many times to hurt BS and BD and I feel I have to protect them.&nbsp;&nbsp;I love DH, but I am not certain I am willing to put the lives of BS age 3 and BD almost age 2 in jeopardy.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Little run down here from most recent to oldest.
Delibrately left Kaboom cleaner on the bathroom floor and door open for BD to get in there.
Purposely disobeyed and put a blanket covering the tv and electrical outlets to try and create a fire.
Pushed BS down a flight of concrete stairs because he "got in her way"
Gave BD sleeping pills.
Left her floride out and open in her room with the door open so that BD and BS could get in there and ingest them.
Put a blanket over BD's head to try and suffocate her.
Slamed BS's hand in the sliding glass door.
Poored bubbles over BS's head.
Laid over BS so he couldn't breathe.
Put a pillow over BD's head to stop her from "screaming"
Pushed BD off a bed.
Pushed BS off a chair.
Pushed BD and BS down the basement stairs
Purposely gave BS all his viatmins to eat.
etc.etc. etc.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[to cantbemom]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 20:40:37 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Hi
Just had to say the little picture in your signature looks JUST like my much adored puppy at home.&nbsp;&nbsp;(ok she is 8 yrs old but still my baby!).&nbsp;&nbsp;Makes me smile at work everytime I see your posts...is like having her in the office with me...awwwwwww.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi
Just had to say the little picture in your signature looks JUST like my much adored puppy at home.&nbsp;&nbsp;(ok she is 8 yrs old but still my baby!).&nbsp;&nbsp;Makes me smile at work everytime I see your posts...is like having her in the office with me...awwwwwww.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Small Business Roller Coaster]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 20:05:48 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Big ups...Downs that leave your stomach behind....We just had a &#36;10,000 job fall through...but then got some of it back....hot spots in June and now a long dry spell.  One project destroyed by weather, had to redo, probably lost money on it.  Never see my dh.  If I want to see him, I have to go with him and sit in the sun or in the truck and run the AC...you get the idea.

Customers are pleased but I'm worried about the economy...and our lack of organization.&nbsp;&nbsp;Seeing a bookkeeper tomorrow.

How do you get through it, Business Savvy smoms?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Big ups...Downs that leave your stomach behind....We just had a &#36;10,000 job fall through...but then got some of it back....hot spots in June and now a long dry spell.  One project destroyed by weather, had to redo, probably lost money on it.  Never see my dh.  If I want to see him, I have to go with him and sit in the sun or in the truck and run the AC...you get the idea.

Customers are pleased but I'm worried about the economy...and our lack of organization.&nbsp;&nbsp;Seeing a bookkeeper tomorrow.

How do you get through it, Business Savvy smoms?]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Raise your hand if....]]></title>
			<link>http://www.smoms.org/smomsbb/showthread.php?tid=7980</link>
			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:12:14 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[So BMOM was somewhat nice to DH before I came into the picture.&nbsp;&nbsp;Since I have been around she has been awful to him...&nbsp;&nbsp;Remember my BMOM is the one who makes up definitions about the parenting plan attempting to take away time with SS8.&nbsp;&nbsp; 

We are going through the attorney to set things straight, only because DH has NEVER fought back and she feels he is a pushover and can tell him how it is.

I got us the best lawyer in town.&nbsp;&nbsp;he is giving great advice and has a strategy to help us make a few minor changes.&nbsp;&nbsp; We are not asking for very much.. but the point is to show we are not afraid of her.

Anywho, I really wish it didnt have to be this way.&nbsp;&nbsp;But she really does hate me.&nbsp;&nbsp;I have only started attending pick/up drop off again since the wedding.&nbsp;&nbsp; And she does not say a word to me.&nbsp;&nbsp;Not even a congratulations.&nbsp;&nbsp; 

SO I am asking any veteran SMOMS out here, the ones who have a crazy BMOM that only thinks of herself..... does it get better?&nbsp;&nbsp;Does she ever give up fighting when she realizes I am not going away?

It really gets old with her b.s... I have just ignored it since I have been Bridezilla.&nbsp;&nbsp;But now life is back to normal and she is still a crazy b*&^%.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[So BMOM was somewhat nice to DH before I came into the picture.&nbsp;&nbsp;Since I have been around she has been awful to him...&nbsp;&nbsp;Remember my BMOM is the one who makes up definitions about the parenting plan attempting to take away time with SS8.&nbsp;&nbsp; 

We are going through the attorney to set things straight, only because DH has NEVER fought back and she feels he is a pushover and can tell him how it is.

I got us the best lawyer in town.&nbsp;&nbsp;he is giving great advice and has a strategy to help us make a few minor changes.&nbsp;&nbsp; We are not asking for very much.. but the point is to show we are not afraid of her.

Anywho, I really wish it didnt have to be this way.&nbsp;&nbsp;But she really does hate me.&nbsp;&nbsp;I have only started attending pick/up drop off again since the wedding.&nbsp;&nbsp; And she does not say a word to me.&nbsp;&nbsp;Not even a congratulations.&nbsp;&nbsp; 

SO I am asking any veteran SMOMS out here, the ones who have a crazy BMOM that only thinks of herself..... does it get better?&nbsp;&nbsp;Does she ever give up fighting when she realizes I am not going away?

It really gets old with her b.s... I have just ignored it since I have been Bridezilla.&nbsp;&nbsp;But now life is back to normal and she is still a crazy b*&^%.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Can I join the Turd Boy Club?]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:06:07 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Ok - you ladies crack me up!  I've been reading posts looking for anyone going through the stuff I am, with 17 yr old SS... Wow, did I come to the right place!  I am so happy to know that I am not the only one dealing with a teenage boy who is resistant to washing clothes, showering, cleaning up his (smelly) room, you name it.  

This summer is stretching out longer and longer before us... I am literally going to climb the walls soon.  This was the summer that DH and I decided not to "schedule" SS into activities. He is 17 and going into his senior year, we thought he would be capable of structuring his time.  What were we thinking???  It's like an experiment that has spiraled out of control and now DH and I have to figure out how to steer SS back on track.  The worst part is that I have 2 adult "boys" who were not like this as teens - and so I simply do not understand what's going on here.

I'd get it if SS wanted to hang out with friends, if he'd find something fun to do, anything to do.  Getting a summer job isn't in the cards, because his BM wouldn't support that when he's with her (we have a crazy half and half schedule).  But rolling out of bed at noon and stumbling around in boxers doing nothing productive all day - Aaaaaagggghhhhhh!  

DH left him a chore list one day (paid chores, to boot) and only with much prodding and harassing from me did he do part of it.  He had every excuse not to do the stuff.  And he's not interested in making money, either, so offering that as an incentive didn't work.  I can't chase him around all day to supervise him, I have a life.

I am totally ready to institute boot camp here, starting tomorrow morning.

Anyone have ideas on how to run a boot camp for Slobby Teen Boys?  Operation Turd Boy Boot Camp, maybe, if you think my SS qualifies for that label?  ;)]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Ok - you ladies crack me up!  I've been reading posts looking for anyone going through the stuff I am, with 17 yr old SS... Wow, did I come to the right place!  I am so happy to know that I am not the only one dealing with a teenage boy who is resistant to washing clothes, showering, cleaning up his (smelly) room, you name it.  

This summer is stretching out longer and longer before us... I am literally going to climb the walls soon.  This was the summer that DH and I decided not to "schedule" SS into activities. He is 17 and going into his senior year, we thought he would be capable of structuring his time.  What were we thinking???  It's like an experiment that has spiraled out of control and now DH and I have to figure out how to steer SS back on track.  The worst part is that I have 2 adult "boys" who were not like this as teens - and so I simply do not understand what's going on here.

I'd get it if SS wanted to hang out with friends, if he'd find something fun to do, anything to do.  Getting a summer job isn't in the cards, because his BM wouldn't support that when he's with her (we have a crazy half and half schedule).  But rolling out of bed at noon and stumbling around in boxers doing nothing productive all day - Aaaaaagggghhhhhh!  

DH left him a chore list one day (paid chores, to boot) and only with much prodding and harassing from me did he do part of it.  He had every excuse not to do the stuff.  And he's not interested in making money, either, so offering that as an incentive didn't work.  I can't chase him around all day to supervise him, I have a life.

I am totally ready to institute boot camp here, starting tomorrow morning.

Anyone have ideas on how to run a boot camp for Slobby Teen Boys?  Operation Turd Boy Boot Camp, maybe, if you think my SS qualifies for that label?  ;)]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[post in teen forum]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:45:17 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[need some input, thanks!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[need some input, thanks!]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[OSS inadvertently made his intentions clear...]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:41:47 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[So, what does DH do in this situation?
Some of you may remember how OSS made DH a Father's Day card. I felt like it was a low blow on many points, a couple of the things he said were:
1) Dh "means well even though sometimes it doesn't come out right"
2) "You need to be given credit, too, you do a really good job of being a father considering you didn't really get to experience YSSs and I's childhood" (Sooooooo, not true and the times they didn't see DH was b/c BM1 or her mom were keeping them from him)
3) And how when he gets a job and can only get the weekends off, it shouldn't ruin the time spent w/ DH. (they are a 14 HOUR round trip drive away, how would he come visit just for a weekend?)

THEN, while they were here, DH asked OSS if he had any plans for college and life after high school. OSS said, "I want to be where ever you are." Then, he said he wants to go to a music school where he can learn to produce songs b/c he wants to be an album producer (or whatever). He also told DH that he is tired of BM1 and he asked DH why can't she let go of her hostility toward DH after 10+ years of being divorced.
Anyways, there was so much more said but I won't bore you w/ the details.
The bottom line is that OSS gave DH the impression that he intends to live w/ BM1 until he is 18 and THEN he will move in w/ us!!!!!
AAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH
I told DH that IF that was going to happen he would be pitching in, cleaning up after himself, paying us some &#36; each month and he needed to know that it wouldn't be the same arrangement it is now!

This is aggravating to me! He doesn't have the courage to "break BM1s heart" by moving in w/ DH, oh, but he'll do it when he's an "adult" and she "doesn't have a say". And DH is fine w/ this!
IDK, I know I am jumping the gun a bit b/c that is all 3 years from now but the thought that this kid thinks that we can be second-best and that he will cater to BM1 until he's of legal age THEN be all buddy-buddy with us, is soooo frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!! He treats DH like he is a "choice", like OSS can choose when DH is his father and also choose when he doesn't want to deal with him!
I really don't know my point in posting this, except to vent and also get some support. Thanks, ladies!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[So, what does DH do in this situation?
Some of you may remember how OSS made DH a Father's Day card. I felt like it was a low blow on many points, a couple of the things he said were:
1) Dh "means well even though sometimes it doesn't come out right"
2) "You need to be given credit, too, you do a really good job of being a father considering you didn't really get to experience YSSs and I's childhood" (Sooooooo, not true and the times they didn't see DH was b/c BM1 or her mom were keeping them from him)
3) And how when he gets a job and can only get the weekends off, it shouldn't ruin the time spent w/ DH. (they are a 14 HOUR round trip drive away, how would he come visit just for a weekend?)

THEN, while they were here, DH asked OSS if he had any plans for college and life after high school. OSS said, "I want to be where ever you are." Then, he said he wants to go to a music school where he can learn to produce songs b/c he wants to be an album producer (or whatever). He also told DH that he is tired of BM1 and he asked DH why can't she let go of her hostility toward DH after 10+ years of being divorced.
Anyways, there was so much more said but I won't bore you w/ the details.
The bottom line is that OSS gave DH the impression that he intends to live w/ BM1 until he is 18 and THEN he will move in w/ us!!!!!
AAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH
I told DH that IF that was going to happen he would be pitching in, cleaning up after himself, paying us some &#36; each month and he needed to know that it wouldn't be the same arrangement it is now!

This is aggravating to me! He doesn't have the courage to "break BM1s heart" by moving in w/ DH, oh, but he'll do it when he's an "adult" and she "doesn't have a say". And DH is fine w/ this!
IDK, I know I am jumping the gun a bit b/c that is all 3 years from now but the thought that this kid thinks that we can be second-best and that he will cater to BM1 until he's of legal age THEN be all buddy-buddy with us, is soooo frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!! He treats DH like he is a "choice", like OSS can choose when DH is his father and also choose when he doesn't want to deal with him!
I really don't know my point in posting this, except to vent and also get some support. Thanks, ladies!]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[There is a Light at the End of the Tunnel]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 15:45:03 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I have been a SM for over 17 years.&nbsp;&nbsp;My SS23 graduated college a year and a half ago and my SD21 is in her last year of college.&nbsp;&nbsp;Since the skids have gone away to school, we have had NO contact with BM.&nbsp;&nbsp;She avoids us because she claims she has no money to help pay for college (yea, right).&nbsp;&nbsp;Anyway, the last time I saw BM was at my SS graduation over 18 months ago!&nbsp;&nbsp;My life has never been better! 

My heart goes out to all SMs who are dealing with difficult BMs, but take heart, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.&nbsp;&nbsp;When my skids got older, they realized what was going on.&nbsp;&nbsp;Now that my skids are older, they are the ones to deal with their BM and believe me they have her number.

Since we have not had contact with BM my life is calm.&nbsp;&nbsp;I do not cringe when the telephone rings.&nbsp;&nbsp;I do not dread school functions or sporting events.&nbsp;&nbsp;I enjoy my DH, my skids and my life without stress and anxiety.

I know that this may only be the calm before the storm because there will be weddings and grandchildren in the future.&nbsp;&nbsp;But for now, things are quite wonderful.&nbsp;&nbsp;So just hold on to this thought, the skids do grow up and your contact with BM will lessen.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[I have been a SM for over 17 years.&nbsp;&nbsp;My SS23 graduated college a year and a half ago and my SD21 is in her last year of college.&nbsp;&nbsp;Since the skids have gone away to school, we have had NO contact with BM.&nbsp;&nbsp;She avoids us because she claims she has no money to help pay for college (yea, right).&nbsp;&nbsp;Anyway, the last time I saw BM was at my SS graduation over 18 months ago!&nbsp;&nbsp;My life has never been better! 

My heart goes out to all SMs who are dealing with difficult BMs, but take heart, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.&nbsp;&nbsp;When my skids got older, they realized what was going on.&nbsp;&nbsp;Now that my skids are older, they are the ones to deal with their BM and believe me they have her number.

Since we have not had contact with BM my life is calm.&nbsp;&nbsp;I do not cringe when the telephone rings.&nbsp;&nbsp;I do not dread school functions or sporting events.&nbsp;&nbsp;I enjoy my DH, my skids and my life without stress and anxiety.

I know that this may only be the calm before the storm because there will be weddings and grandchildren in the future.&nbsp;&nbsp;But for now, things are quite wonderful.&nbsp;&nbsp;So just hold on to this thought, the skids do grow up and your contact with BM will lessen.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[How much alone time do you get with your husband?]]></title>
			<link>http://www.smoms.org/smomsbb/showthread.php?tid=7975</link>
			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 14:31:22 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Ever since I met my husband, I've had to swallow the fact that I have to "share" him and his time with his children. It used to put a huge strain on our marriage and we were separated for 3 months over it. Now that we are back together, we spend a whole day just to ourselves every week. Now his work schedule is changing and his days off are falling on when the skids are here so we only get our special day together once every other week. Is this not enough, just right, or am I really lucky? Somebody set me straight and tell me how much alone time (if any) you get to spend with your man.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Ever since I met my husband, I've had to swallow the fact that I have to "share" him and his time with his children. It used to put a huge strain on our marriage and we were separated for 3 months over it. Now that we are back together, we spend a whole day just to ourselves every week. Now his work schedule is changing and his days off are falling on when the skids are here so we only get our special day together once every other week. Is this not enough, just right, or am I really lucky? Somebody set me straight and tell me how much alone time (if any) you get to spend with your man.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Advice on riding the Crazy Train....]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 14:25:50 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I'm hoping to get some insight from all of you pertaining to BM2 and her divorce from her DH.
This has been a constant roller coaster ride!
BM2 is swinging from being SUPER nice:
1) asking DH how he is doing (something she hasn't done in YEARS)
2) ASKING (even saying PLEASE) if DH will pay for half of swimming lessons again since SD didn't graduate last time.
3) asking DH when he wants to meet her mom for d/o (she even said, "whenever you want, my mom will meet at whatever time you say.")
And so on...
Then she goes from that to the complete other end of the spectrum:
1) Knowing that it's DHs 4th of July this year, making plans to exchange SD the day before, then calling and asking if she can keep SD until Saturday then pouting when DH said no.
2) Telling DH one thing then finding out the truth from SD.
3) Telling SD one thing (like, "you can take my Wii to your dad's house so you can all play it together" even though SD didn't ask to take it and neither did we) and then not following through or denying she said it.

*sigh* Does anyone have any advice on how to handle her swings from one side to the other? I know she's going through a tough time right now, she is moving their stuff into a different house, I think she and her H are selling the house they were living in, packing, divying up things w/ him and so on, but I'm wondering how long this will last!
We also know that whatever DH is getting her soon-to-be ex is probably getting it worse! Maybe now, he will understand just what DH has had to go through for the past 9 years!
Anyways, if anyone has any ideas please impart your wisdom!
Also, does you all think that it is inevitable that once BM2 gets done w/her divorce that she will take DH back to court for more CS? If so, what things from her divorce would be considered income (sale of house, 401K division, etc.)?
Thanks, ladies!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[I'm hoping to get some insight from all of you pertaining to BM2 and her divorce from her DH.
This has been a constant roller coaster ride!
BM2 is swinging from being SUPER nice:
1) asking DH how he is doing (something she hasn't done in YEARS)
2) ASKING (even saying PLEASE) if DH will pay for half of swimming lessons again since SD didn't graduate last time.
3) asking DH when he wants to meet her mom for d/o (she even said, "whenever you want, my mom will meet at whatever time you say.")
And so on...
Then she goes from that to the complete other end of the spectrum:
1) Knowing that it's DHs 4th of July this year, making plans to exchange SD the day before, then calling and asking if she can keep SD until Saturday then pouting when DH said no.
2) Telling DH one thing then finding out the truth from SD.
3) Telling SD one thing (like, "you can take my Wii to your dad's house so you can all play it together" even though SD didn't ask to take it and neither did we) and then not following through or denying she said it.

*sigh* Does anyone have any advice on how to handle her swings from one side to the other? I know she's going through a tough time right now, she is moving their stuff into a different house, I think she and her H are selling the house they were living in, packing, divying up things w/ him and so on, but I'm wondering how long this will last!
We also know that whatever DH is getting her soon-to-be ex is probably getting it worse! Maybe now, he will understand just what DH has had to go through for the past 9 years!
Anyways, if anyone has any ideas please impart your wisdom!
Also, does you all think that it is inevitable that once BM2 gets done w/her divorce that she will take DH back to court for more CS? If so, what things from her divorce would be considered income (sale of house, 401K division, etc.)?
Thanks, ladies!]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Give me strength]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 14:21:41 -0400</pubDate>
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SS is arriving this weekend for his summer visit and I am having anxieties about his stay.&nbsp;&nbsp;This is always a very stressful time in our home.&nbsp;&nbsp;Please send some prayers my way.]]></description>
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SS is arriving this weekend for his summer visit and I am having anxieties about his stay.&nbsp;&nbsp;This is always a very stressful time in our home.&nbsp;&nbsp;Please send some prayers my way.]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Anniversary]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 14:14:50 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Hey everyone! 

I just wanted to share the wonderful experience I had yesterday.  I realized that everything I have been through this past year is definietly worth being with my Dh and that we still have the bond we had in the begining it just doesnt show all the time.

Yesterday was our 1 year anniversary. He gave me a really expensive watch and its absolutely gorgeous.  Then he took me to this real nice fancy place and got me a manicure, pedicure, facial, and 50 minute massage. And waited in the waiting room for me the whole time!  Then we went to dinner, and a movie.  And when I got home there was a path of rose petals leading from the door to the bedroom.  We ate our wedding cake (tradition) which was horrible haha. then I gave him his gift.  

I had secretly had my dad go and install a new cd player in dh's truck while we were gone.  So in this little gift bag held a key chain photo of me and the skids and a remote to the cd player.  He was thrilled!

I had a wonderful day yesterday and just wanted to remind all of you, that no matter the hardships we go through with the skids and dh, that you will always have the bond with them.  Its all going to be ok.  An entire year of dealing with skids and learning of how to be a good smom  leads to a day of peace with just the two of u and let me tell you it is worth it! 

Hope all is well.

Hugs~]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Hey everyone! 

I just wanted to share the wonderful experience I had yesterday.  I realized that everything I have been through this past year is definietly worth being with my Dh and that we still have the bond we had in the begining it just doesnt show all the time.

Yesterday was our 1 year anniversary. He gave me a really expensive watch and its absolutely gorgeous.  Then he took me to this real nice fancy place and got me a manicure, pedicure, facial, and 50 minute massage. And waited in the waiting room for me the whole time!  Then we went to dinner, and a movie.  And when I got home there was a path of rose petals leading from the door to the bedroom.  We ate our wedding cake (tradition) which was horrible haha. then I gave him his gift.  

I had secretly had my dad go and install a new cd player in dh's truck while we were gone.  So in this little gift bag held a key chain photo of me and the skids and a remote to the cd player.  He was thrilled!

I had a wonderful day yesterday and just wanted to remind all of you, that no matter the hardships we go through with the skids and dh, that you will always have the bond with them.  Its all going to be ok.  An entire year of dealing with skids and learning of how to be a good smom  leads to a day of peace with just the two of u and let me tell you it is worth it! 

Hope all is well.

Hugs~]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[I'm a Newbie &amp; I need help!]]></title>
			<link>http://www.smoms.org/smomsbb/showthread.php?tid=7971</link>
			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 14:06:41 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Hello! I am new to this forum or any other and frankly have NO idea why i have not done this sooner!  Please take pity on me as i get the lingo down..... I am a smom to a wonderful, loving 6 year old SD.  I love her dearly and she loves me! I have been married to her father, for 3years and i have no children of my own by choice.  I love my SD as much as any mother could, would, should, DOES and i raise her the way i would raise my own.  My husband and i are on a week on/week off schedule with the bmom (and would appreciate thoughts on this type of arrangement), which i think my SD thrives in for the most part.  I have bent over backwards, sideways, ANY ways to keep peace with the bm to no avail! She is single with a 14yr from a previous relationship and is not interested in being a mom to either of her 2 children, but has no problem throwing the "i'm the mother" at us any chance she gets.  The most recent incident has taken it's toll on me, my relationship with my husband and our generally peaceuful existence.  And it is in line with many other incidents that have reeked havoc on MY life.  I don't know how to conitnue to provide a loving, happy, healthy home for my SD when the bm seems to have such an affect on it!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Hello! I am new to this forum or any other and frankly have NO idea why i have not done this sooner!  Please take pity on me as i get the lingo down..... I am a smom to a wonderful, loving 6 year old SD.  I love her dearly and she loves me! I have been married to her father, for 3years and i have no children of my own by choice.  I love my SD as much as any mother could, would, should, DOES and i raise her the way i would raise my own.  My husband and i are on a week on/week off schedule with the bmom (and would appreciate thoughts on this type of arrangement), which i think my SD thrives in for the most part.  I have bent over backwards, sideways, ANY ways to keep peace with the bm to no avail! She is single with a 14yr from a previous relationship and is not interested in being a mom to either of her 2 children, but has no problem throwing the "i'm the mother" at us any chance she gets.  The most recent incident has taken it's toll on me, my relationship with my husband and our generally peaceuful existence.  And it is in line with many other incidents that have reeked havoc on MY life.  I don't know how to conitnue to provide a loving, happy, healthy home for my SD when the bm seems to have such an affect on it!]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[BM attitude]]></title>
			<link>http://www.smoms.org/smomsbb/showthread.php?tid=7970</link>
			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:32:54 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Ya know, I hate bm's attitude & I have 0 understanding of her logic.

She left my h a nasty vmail last night. Her bf's kids are getting to go over to his house (yeah bf!! first time in 3 years... his wife is a nasty woman I've heard) & bm wants to keep the kids this weekend. Fine, not a problem but she called my h at work & he couldn't talk. So he told her he'd call her back but forgot. Her vmail was just nasty & why does h get to do whatever he wants whenever he wants & she can't... blah blah blah...

WTF?!? Since when do we get to do whatever we want?? We have a terrorist we have to ask to wipe our butts so she doesn't have a caniption & take it out on the skids. If we buy a house, a car, anything. Even when I bought a car & we were separated he had to tell her cuz when the kids saw it they were too excited.

I don't understand her logic, why is she always a victim of us?? Please, someone explain. She made the decision to live with a married man, she made the decision to lie & get knocked up, she made the decision to refuse to get even a part time job, she made the decision to move 5 hours away so we couldn't be active with the kids (screwing herself since she REALLY likes time to herself). Why are we getting blamed for her feeling tied down?? She doesn't work she doesn't do anything. Why does she get angry when we can afford to do things... WE HAVE JOBS!! If she's so frustrated, she can easily get off her lazy hind end & get one.

When do we stop getting blamed for the bad decisions she's made & now her life is miserable?? GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Ya know, I hate bm's attitude & I have 0 understanding of her logic.

She left my h a nasty vmail last night. Her bf's kids are getting to go over to his house (yeah bf!! first time in 3 years... his wife is a nasty woman I've heard) & bm wants to keep the kids this weekend. Fine, not a problem but she called my h at work & he couldn't talk. So he told her he'd call her back but forgot. Her vmail was just nasty & why does h get to do whatever he wants whenever he wants & she can't... blah blah blah...

WTF?!? Since when do we get to do whatever we want?? We have a terrorist we have to ask to wipe our butts so she doesn't have a caniption & take it out on the skids. If we buy a house, a car, anything. Even when I bought a car & we were separated he had to tell her cuz when the kids saw it they were too excited.

I don't understand her logic, why is she always a victim of us?? Please, someone explain. She made the decision to live with a married man, she made the decision to lie & get knocked up, she made the decision to refuse to get even a part time job, she made the decision to move 5 hours away so we couldn't be active with the kids (screwing herself since she REALLY likes time to herself). Why are we getting blamed for her feeling tied down?? She doesn't work she doesn't do anything. Why does she get angry when we can afford to do things... WE HAVE JOBS!! If she's so frustrated, she can easily get off her lazy hind end & get one.

When do we stop getting blamed for the bad decisions she's made & now her life is miserable?? GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[What makes him worth it?]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:21:49 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I think this website is fantastic and lord knows I have done my share of venting about the things that come with being a stepmom. So I was wondering, when there are all of these negatives, what makes your DH, SO,BF worth it?

I admit my situation is pretty good, I get along with BM well enough (I think she would like us to be good friends, but I can't do that) and everything there is relatively drama free.&nbsp;&nbsp;I still have to deal with a needy, bad tempered kid living in my house half the time, FH having to pay child support and just all of the issues that come with being "2nd". But I don't doubt for a minute that he is worth it because-

-He treats me like I am the most beautiful woman in the world- even when I look like crap.
-He consciously works hard to make sure I don't feel ignored when SS is around (without me ever asking this of him).
-We laugh together all the time.
-We don't fight (it helps that I am always right so he never has to think that he is :-))
-He doesn't have any unreasonable expectations of me- he isn't looking for me to be a mother to his son- he just wants to be with me.
-And most importantly, I always, every minute of the day, feel loved by him. I have never had that secure a feeling from any man- even if they had no ex wife or kids. 

So that's why I am willing to take on SMOM'hood, what makes your guy worth it?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[I think this website is fantastic and lord knows I have done my share of venting about the things that come with being a stepmom. So I was wondering, when there are all of these negatives, what makes your DH, SO,BF worth it?

I admit my situation is pretty good, I get along with BM well enough (I think she would like us to be good friends, but I can't do that) and everything there is relatively drama free.&nbsp;&nbsp;I still have to deal with a needy, bad tempered kid living in my house half the time, FH having to pay child support and just all of the issues that come with being "2nd". But I don't doubt for a minute that he is worth it because-

-He treats me like I am the most beautiful woman in the world- even when I look like crap.
-He consciously works hard to make sure I don't feel ignored when SS is around (without me ever asking this of him).
-We laugh together all the time.
-We don't fight (it helps that I am always right so he never has to think that he is :-))
-He doesn't have any unreasonable expectations of me- he isn't looking for me to be a mother to his son- he just wants to be with me.
-And most importantly, I always, every minute of the day, feel loved by him. I have never had that secure a feeling from any man- even if they had no ex wife or kids. 

So that's why I am willing to take on SMOM'hood, what makes your guy worth it?]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[Question]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:59:31 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Have I offended anyone somehow? Or am I just feeling paranoid?
I did delete a reply in one of Agnes's posts, w/ a seperate reply explaining why. I don't know who all may have read the first one before it was deleted, or what, but I'm extremely fragile emotionally right now for a number of reasons.

I'm ill, I'm just beginning to read "Loving What Is" as recommended by Glenda, to work on my marriage w/ DH, which is under tremendous strain at present. 

I turn to you ladies for support, to give my support if I can, just to have people who understand. You know this already.


Please, if I've said something wrong, let me know and I ask for forgiveness. If I haven't , and am, in fact, paranoid, let me know that too so I'll have one less thing to worry about when I'm already a huge mess!

Thanks and love to all,

bunny]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Have I offended anyone somehow? Or am I just feeling paranoid?
I did delete a reply in one of Agnes's posts, w/ a seperate reply explaining why. I don't know who all may have read the first one before it was deleted, or what, but I'm extremely fragile emotionally right now for a number of reasons.

I'm ill, I'm just beginning to read "Loving What Is" as recommended by Glenda, to work on my marriage w/ DH, which is under tremendous strain at present. 

I turn to you ladies for support, to give my support if I can, just to have people who understand. You know this already.


Please, if I've said something wrong, let me know and I ask for forgiveness. If I haven't , and am, in fact, paranoid, let me know that too so I'll have one less thing to worry about when I'm already a huge mess!

Thanks and love to all,

bunny]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[SD too friendly with strangers... HELP!]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:35:15 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I have a question for you ladies. My DH, MIL, FIL & I are concerned about SD5. She is overly friendly to people she doesn’t even know, usually women (but she has done this with men, too). She will try to go right inside anyone’s house, asks to see their bedrooms, wants to look around. She climbs on/hugs/grabs the hand of people, even those we barely know. For example, we just moved into a new neighborhood and a neighbor (female) came down to introduce herself. I had just came home from work to find SD following this woman around, hanging on her & begging DH to let her go to this woman’s house- we don’t know her yet & she wasn’t invited! When the neighbor went to leave, SD threw her arms around the woman’s waist! Oftentimes people seem uncomfortable, as did our neighbor, and as I always do when she does this to strangers I told SD to let go immediately. Neighbor left and DH had a talk with SD but it doesn’t sink in. Also, over the weekend we went camping with family, we were watching fireworks… SD was near all of us, then DH & I blink and find her hanging out with some random family and their little boy (he looked about two), getting right up in the mom’s face & dragging the little boy around. We called her over and corrected her but again this isn’t the first time we’ve had an issue like this and it probably won’t be the last. We have explained that strangers can be very dangerous and that she is not to go in ANYONE’S house, and that just because an adult has another little kid with him/her doesn’t mean he/she is a nice person… I’m also worried about her social skills, as she’s going into first grade in September and this can’t be happening- the grabbing and/or hugging of other kids & teachers- it’s overbearing and makes people uncomfortable. I don’t know if this could be due to some underlying issue or if it’s just a case of SD being overly trusting and affectionate but as I told my husband it only take one wrong person and she could be gone. 

I tried to research it a little this morning and the internet kept bringing up “attachment” issues. It said that infants who spend time away from their parents, like those in ICU, and miss out on the bonding of being cuddled,etc can develop issues (SD spent the first part of her life in ICU, unable to be held). Her BM also dumped her off on anyone she could then took off to Florida with SD to live, and we know SD spent time with various caretakers & went through a divorce when BM & her stepdad didn’t work out. 

I dunno, I’m not trying to push blame on BM (as much as I do not care for her) but DH & I don’t know how to explain it or what to do. I wonder if I’m to blame- maybe she does it when she’s with us because *I* am not a cuddly affectionate stepmom. We don’t know if she does it at her mom’s, DH hasn’t talked to her about it yet- we just didn’t realize the magnitude of this problem till recently. 

She's almost 6 and has been taught "stranger danger" at school, from us & I'm certain her mother as well. We're most concerned about that, although we'd like to stop her from hanging on people the way she does too. Any advice?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[I have a question for you ladies. My DH, MIL, FIL & I are concerned about SD5. She is overly friendly to people she doesn’t even know, usually women (but she has done this with men, too). She will try to go right inside anyone’s house, asks to see their bedrooms, wants to look around. She climbs on/hugs/grabs the hand of people, even those we barely know. For example, we just moved into a new neighborhood and a neighbor (female) came down to introduce herself. I had just came home from work to find SD following this woman around, hanging on her & begging DH to let her go to this woman’s house- we don’t know her yet & she wasn’t invited! When the neighbor went to leave, SD threw her arms around the woman’s waist! Oftentimes people seem uncomfortable, as did our neighbor, and as I always do when she does this to strangers I told SD to let go immediately. Neighbor left and DH had a talk with SD but it doesn’t sink in. Also, over the weekend we went camping with family, we were watching fireworks… SD was near all of us, then DH & I blink and find her hanging out with some random family and their little boy (he looked about two), getting right up in the mom’s face & dragging the little boy around. We called her over and corrected her but again this isn’t the first time we’ve had an issue like this and it probably won’t be the last. We have explained that strangers can be very dangerous and that she is not to go in ANYONE’S house, and that just because an adult has another little kid with him/her doesn’t mean he/she is a nice person… I’m also worried about her social skills, as she’s going into first grade in September and this can’t be happening- the grabbing and/or hugging of other kids & teachers- it’s overbearing and makes people uncomfortable. I don’t know if this could be due to some underlying issue or if it’s just a case of SD being overly trusting and affectionate but as I told my husband it only take one wrong person and she could be gone. 

I tried to research it a little this morning and the internet kept bringing up “attachment” issues. It said that infants who spend time away from their parents, like those in ICU, and miss out on the bonding of being cuddled,etc can develop issues (SD spent the first part of her life in ICU, unable to be held). Her BM also dumped her off on anyone she could then took off to Florida with SD to live, and we know SD spent time with various caretakers & went through a divorce when BM & her stepdad didn’t work out. 

I dunno, I’m not trying to push blame on BM (as much as I do not care for her) but DH & I don’t know how to explain it or what to do. I wonder if I’m to blame- maybe she does it when she’s with us because *I* am not a cuddly affectionate stepmom. We don’t know if she does it at her mom’s, DH hasn’t talked to her about it yet- we just didn’t realize the magnitude of this problem till recently. 

She's almost 6 and has been taught "stranger danger" at school, from us & I'm certain her mother as well. We're most concerned about that, although we'd like to stop her from hanging on people the way she does too. Any advice?]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[New Smom Intro]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:32:52 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Hi!  What a great group!  I've been staying in the background reading for a bit, and now I'd like to introduce myself and say hi to everyone.

Let's see, where do I start?  I'm Smom to a 17 year old boy, and also have 3 "boys" of my own.  2 are adults now - they are both wonderful people, and I am so blessed to have had a hand in raising them.  I didn't give birth to either of them, they were my foster kids, but they have always had my whole heart, as does SS.  DH and I have a little munchkin together, too.  He is 4, and adores all of his big brothers.

Oh, and I do have 2 more "kids" - my doggies!  I have a great big Aussie cross, my doggie soul-mate, and he has a tiny sidekick, a rescued chihuahua.  They are both 15 and slowing down these days.

My DH and I have been married for 10 years.  And, if you can believe this, he was also my very first love!  We were together in HS, and while we were apart for 10 years, he was always my gold standard, and the one that no other boyfriend could match.  I could go on and on about how amazing it was for us to find each other again, but I'll stop there for now.  

My SS's bio-mother is very hostile, and dealing with her for the past 10 years has been challenging, to say the least.  As SS has gotten older, she has changed her MO several times, and while some of her overtly hostile behaviors have stopped she's moved on to more covert hostility.  I guess you'd call it PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) from what I've read.  The PAS is so much more insidious, and hard to deal with than any of the other antics BM has tried over the years, and that's how I came to arrive here - I'm looking for help or support on how to let go and release the grief that I'm feeling when I see SS acting certain ways due to PAS.  (Did that make sense?)

Hoping to get to know each of you soon, and that maybe I can bring some helpful insight to the table, as well.  ]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi!  What a great group!  I've been staying in the background reading for a bit, and now I'd like to introduce myself and say hi to everyone.

Let's see, where do I start?  I'm Smom to a 17 year old boy, and also have 3 "boys" of my own.  2 are adults now - they are both wonderful people, and I am so blessed to have had a hand in raising them.  I didn't give birth to either of them, they were my foster kids, but they have always had my whole heart, as does SS.  DH and I have a little munchkin together, too.  He is 4, and adores all of his big brothers.

Oh, and I do have 2 more "kids" - my doggies!  I have a great big Aussie cross, my doggie soul-mate, and he has a tiny sidekick, a rescued chihuahua.  They are both 15 and slowing down these days.

My DH and I have been married for 10 years.  And, if you can believe this, he was also my very first love!  We were together in HS, and while we were apart for 10 years, he was always my gold standard, and the one that no other boyfriend could match.  I could go on and on about how amazing it was for us to find each other again, but I'll stop there for now.  

My SS's bio-mother is very hostile, and dealing with her for the past 10 years has been challenging, to say the least.  As SS has gotten older, she has changed her MO several times, and while some of her overtly hostile behaviors have stopped she's moved on to more covert hostility.  I guess you'd call it PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) from what I've read.  The PAS is so much more insidious, and hard to deal with than any of the other antics BM has tried over the years, and that's how I came to arrive here - I'm looking for help or support on how to let go and release the grief that I'm feeling when I see SS acting certain ways due to PAS.  (Did that make sense?)

Hoping to get to know each of you soon, and that maybe I can bring some helpful insight to the table, as well.  ]]></content:encoded>
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			<title><![CDATA[OFFICIALLY the SMOM!]]></title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:00:27 -0400</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Hi All,

I have been gone from here for a while.&nbsp;&nbsp;The final details of the wedding kept me busy.&nbsp;&nbsp;We had an amazing day.&nbsp;&nbsp; SS8 had an awesome time as best man.&nbsp;&nbsp;Our entire wedding party was children.&nbsp;&nbsp;14 of them!&nbsp;&nbsp; 

Sadly this has not made BMOM love me anymore.&nbsp;&nbsp;As expected.&nbsp;&nbsp;But now that I am legally the SMOM, I am hoping she will change her tune and realize i am not going away.&nbsp;&nbsp;

We are pursuing changes to the 76% daycare my hubby has to pay.&nbsp;&nbsp; She is really abusing it, especially since he does not have a say in where SS8 goes to daycare.&nbsp;&nbsp;So we are going to ask for a change in the residential schedule, like extended weekend instead of driving in the middle of the week to help on gas prices.&nbsp;&nbsp;She lives 20 miles away now.

Anywho, one step at a time!&nbsp;&nbsp;I hope everyone is well and the BMOMs have suddenly turned nice. HA HA HA

Big Hugs
Mrs. GlassHalfFull]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi All,

I have been gone from here for a while.&nbsp;&nbsp;The final details of the wedding kept me busy.&nbsp;&nbsp;We had an amazing day.&nbsp;&nbsp; SS8 had an awesome time as best man.&nbsp;&nbsp;Our entire wedding party was children.&nbsp;&nbsp;14 of them!&nbsp;&nbsp; 

Sadly this has not made BMOM love me anymore.&nbsp;&nbsp;As expected.&nbsp;&nbsp;But now that I am legally the SMOM, I am hoping she will change her tune and realize i am not going away.&nbsp;&nbsp;

We are pursuing changes to the 76% daycare my hubby has to pay.&nbsp;&nbsp; She is really abusing it, especially since he does not have a say in where SS8 goes to daycare.&nbsp;&nbsp;So we are going to ask for a change in the residential schedule, like extended weekend instead of driving in the middle of the week to help on gas prices.&nbsp;&nbsp;She lives 20 miles away now.

Anywho, one step at a time!&nbsp;&nbsp;I hope everyone is well and the BMOMs have suddenly turned nice. HA HA HA

Big Hugs
Mrs. GlassHalfFull]]></content:encoded>
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