Hello & Welcome to my site!
If you’re considering working with me privately, taking a workshop or becoming a Subscribing Member, I thought you might wonder, “What makes her a stepmom teacher & mentor? and "What can this woman teach me?” so I created this page to answer those valid questions.
My goal, as a train & mentor to stepmoms, is to help you cultivate greater emotional well-being & wisdom and help you maintain a strong ever-loving connection with your partner by giving you new skills & insights while helping you learn more about yourself & what you need. While no one has all the answers, I sure have a lot of questions, stories & options that will help you figure out what is best for you.
My expertise comes from personal experiences, the work I’ve done with other stepmoms and my own search for wisdom. I’ve been in the stepmom trenches for a long time & want to pass along what I’ve learned to any woman who feels drawn to my work. How did I acquire my knowledge about human behavior, psychology, relationships? There's an answer for that question. I'll be as succinct as I can. Thanks for you interest.
I've gathered my skills in several ways:
What you’ll learn from me comes from what I’ve experienced in real life, not clinical studies or the untested work of others. Like the story-tellers of old passed down their wisdom to help the next generations, I believe working with people who’ve gone before us, felt what we’ve felt, lived through what we’re struggling with now & who already did what we’re trying to do, can be a profound loving exploration & empowering learning experience.
When I started SMOMS® in 2000, it was with the goal of offering compassionate, emotional and problem solving support for stepmoms who were searching for empathy & answers, like I was & the vision of building an organization to educate, support & empower stepmoms around the world.
If you read my body of work, freely displayed here on SMOMS.org, you’ll get a sense of my approach & you'll know if what I have to teach is what you want to learn. Whether you drop by the site to read an article, join the free member support boards or choose to work more actively with me as a Subscribing Member, workshop participant or private client, may you find the answers you're looking for to bring you more peace and joy.
More than ever, I remain passionate about helping stepmoms and I look forward to working with those of you who want to learn more, talk about, work thru, get better at, try out and get support for the many complex issues we face as stepmoms.
I wholeheartedly welcome you to join me on this profound & empowering journey.
Warm Regards & Best Wishes, Cathryn
For more specifics, you can read my bio at cbdoyle.com.
For some testimonials, you can read them by clicking here.
Register as a Member of SMOMS.org & learn:
Become a Participating Member and here's a list of some of the issues we'll be working on. There's alot to talk about:
It can be hard to believe that being a stepmom is really a tremendous opportunity for personal growth, but I can tell you from experience and with heartfelt enthusiasm that it’s true!
PS I’m not a therapist or a licensed as a counselor...
I've been a consultant since 1984 and sharing personal experiences has always been part of my working style. Because I’m NOT a therapist, I’m NOT bound by the ethical parameters that, for the most part, prevent therapists from revealing anything about themselves when working with clients. This relationship boundary keeps the focus on the client by creating a clinical environment for the client’s process. This model can work beautifully … with the right therapist. Happily, as a teacher, consultant & trainer, I’m free to share my personal feelings, experiences & lessons learned. I can be a mentor, friend & part of the amazing sisterhood of Stepmoms on a Mission®.
Therapy can be very important. I know from personal experience that working with a wise and wonderful therapist can help heal the emotional wounds we all carry from our past into our relationships. If you’re working with a therapist, PLEASE be sure you’re working with a therapist who has done his or her own personal growth work, ideally is a stepmom and who demonstrates to you that he/she is aware of the unique aspects of being a stepmom.
Taking your time & trusting your gut when selecting your therapist is worth every ounce of energy. Please NEVER settle. Many of my clients work in tandem with their therapists and it’s been a terrific synergistic process that I wholeheartedly encourage. FYI: Dr. Alice Miller has written a few pages offering ideas for interviewing a therapist in her book, “Free From Lies; Discovering your true needs.” (pgs. 121-126) You may want to check that out on Amazon.