Hi and welcome to "Cathryn's Mailbox"
Our bulletin board is so busy that it can be difficult for some SMOMS (and particularly for stepmoms in crisis) to find insights for the problems they're facing.
The goal is to cover issues that will help all of us grow and become wiser and more skillful in handling whatever is happening in our world, so I hope you'll flood my mailbox with your letters. While I can't promise a published reply to each and every one, I'll do my best and when it makes sense, I'll cover common issues in one posting! If your letter is used in "Ask Cathryn for Help" it won't appear with your screen name; that's intentional to protect your privacy and to keep the focus on the topic. When you write, pick one thing that you would most like some help or insight on. Be as specific as you can so I can give you some valuable support. In order to reply to everyone (my goal) I'm setting a time limit of 30 minutes so we both want to make sure you get something specific out of the experience.
Being a SMOM (whether married or not) has many challenges, big and small. We all understand how easy it would be to become "wicked or evil" and yet we continually choose to be as positive, compassionate and creative as we can. In a nutshell, this is the key difference between a stepmom and a SMOM. Our attitude and perspective on all the challenges we face and their impact on us, can shift as we realize (maybe even embrace?) that there are ways we can use each conflict, emotional jolt and upsetting event as opportunities for personal growth, emotional healing and empowerment. Sister Smoms, while you're so busy helping all the people in your world, how can I help you?
I look forward to hearing from you,
Cathryn Bond Doyle, Founder, Stepmoms on a Mission
PS When you've finished typing in your information, please type in the 2 words you see at the bottom left and hit "OK" on the bottom right. This will avoid potential Spam issues and send your letter right to me. You'll receive an email to confirm your submission.